For some, the thoughts of the holidays are filled with excited anticipation,
happiness, and fond memories of holidays past. For others, the holidays may bring
to the forefront a sense of anxiety, sadness, loss, disappointment, or even dread.
Amidst the hustle and bustle, it’s easy to forget that for some the holidays are
bittersweet – and sometimes downright painful. Some feel lonely or ill or face a
daunting challenge. Others mourn the death of a parent, a child, or a beloved
friend. Still others grieve lost relationships, lament over hopes deferred, or feel
discouraged by dreams never realized.
If you are caring for a loved one who is hurting this holiday, you may feel at a loss
as to how to be helpful. Remember that those who struggle with sadness during
the holidays need to feel that sadness, and there can be a sweetness in sadness that
is both healthy and healing. It’s important to offer comfort without demanding
that someone take it. Talk less and listen more. Create opportunities for your
loved one to speak openly about their sadness, their struggle, their disappointment.
Encourage those who grieve to share special memories. Invite someone who feels
blue to participate in activities, but don’t push too hard. Spending time together,
allowing for honest sharing, and giving gentle encouragements are important.
Above all, be present and available, and let your loved one know how much you
care.
